Children seem to have a highly evolved sense of justice. As both a parent and a teacher, I can still hear the whiny refrain, “but it’s not fair,” and the complaint that so and so had more crayons or a bigger piece of cake or got to choose the game at recess. Really, though, what they have is a sense that someone has something bigger or better than they do and they do not like that at all.
As adults, we are different. Right? Maybe. You may be familiar with the Litany of Humility. Some parts of that prayer are hard to say, let alone desire. “From the desire of being loved… praised… preferred, deliver me Jesus… From the fear of being humiliated… despised… forgotten, deliver me Jesus… That others may be praised and I unnoticed, Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.”
Humility is necessary to submit ourselves to the justice of God. Humility teaches us to behave like the tax collector in today’s Gospel and not like the Pharisee. The Pharisee is very concerned with doing what is correct according to the law and comparing himself to those he believes are not as good as he is. He shows a lack of humility and is judgmental. The tax collector, in contrast, begs for God’s mercy. He knows who he is, a sinner, like all of us. If we do not humbly acknowledge our sinfulness, we cannot receive God’s mercy. Only when we go before God and acknowledge our sins and ask for forgiveness do we receive mercy.
The Pharisee and the tax collector are us. Maybe not at the same time, but certainly over a lifetime. We cannot help but be both because humility is not an easy virtue to acquire or to maintain. I have noticed that my ability to be humble lessens when I begin to think about life being “not fair” like children do. It also lessens when I think, “oh, look at me, I’m so humble,” somehow thinking it came from something I did rather than from God.
Praying the Litany of Humility is not easy, but it may be your time to pray it. Go slowly, notice what stings a bit or where you catch your breath and write it down. Then ask God to help you grow toward humility in those areas.
Life may not seem fair, but God is. I invite you to accept your life, with its joys and sorrows, in humility, knowing that God exalts the humble.
Los niños parecen tener un sentido de la justicia muy desarrollado. Como madre y profesor, todavía puedo oír el lloriqueo de “pero no es justo”, y la queja de que esa otra persona tenía más crayones, un trozo de pastel más grande o pudo escoger el juego durante recreo. Sin embargo, en realidad, lo que tienen es la sensación de que alguien tiene algo más grande o mejor que ellos, y eso no les gusta para nada.
Como adultos, somos diferentes. ¿Verdad? Puede ser. Quizás conozcas la Letanía de la Humildad. Algunas partes de esa oración son difíciles de recitar, y mucho menos de desear. “Del deseo de ser amado… alabado… preferido, líbrame, Jesús… Del miedo de ser humillado… despreciado… olvidado, líbrame, Jesús… Para que otros sean alabados y yo pase desapercibido, Jesús, concédeme la gracia de desearlo”.
La humildad es necesaria para someternos a la justicia de Dios. La humildad nos enseña a comportarnos como el publicano del Evangelio de hoy y no como el fariseo. El fariseo se preocupa mucho por hacer lo correcto según la ley y se compara con quienes cree que no son tan buenos como él. Muestra falta de humildad y es crítico. El publicano, en cambio, implora la misericordia de Dios. Sabe quién es: un pecador, como todos nosotros. Si no reconocemos humildemente el hecho de que somos pecadores, no podemos recibir la misericordia de Dios. Solo recibimos misericordia cuando nos presentamos ante Dios, reconocemos nuestros pecados y pedimos perdón.
Nosotros somos tanto el fariseo como el publicano. Quizás no al mismo tiempo, pero sí a lo largo de la vida. No podemos evitar ser ambos, porque la humildad no es una virtud fácil de adquirir ni de mantener. He notado que mi capacidad de ser humilde disminuye cuando empiezo a pensar que la vida “no es justa”, como hacen los niños. También disminuye cuando pienso: “Oh, mírame, qué humilde soy”, pensando que de alguna manera proviene de algo que yo hice y no de Dios.
Rezar la Letanía de la Humildad no es fácil, pero quizás sea tu momento de hacerlo. Leelo despacio, observa qué te duele un poco o dónde te quedas sin aliento y anótalo. Luego, pídele a Dios que te ayude a crecer en humildad en esos aspectos.
La vida puede parecer injusta, pero Dios sí es justo. Te invito a aceptar tu vida, con sus alegrías y sus tristezas, con humildad, sabiendo que Dios enaltece a los humildes.
Deanna G. Bartalini, M.Ed.; M.P.A., is a certified spiritual director, writer, speaker and content creator. The LiveNotLukewarm.com online community is a place to inform, engage and inspire your Catholic faith. Her weekly Not Lukewarm Podcast gives you tips and tools to live out your faith in your daily life.
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