As science continues to study the human person, there has been a continual debate about “nature vs. nurture.” What is “baked in,” if you will, to our genes, and what is taught or acquired by our surroundings. Just how much of our personality are we stuck with, and what is up for change or transformation?
Jesus’ conversation with Nicodemus touches on this topic. Jesus says a person must be born from above. The word Jesus chooses to use to describe this rebirth can mean both “from above” and “again.” Nicodemus wonders, how can a man possibly re-enter his mother’s womb and be born again? How can the fundamental fact of who I am, who I was born as, change? How can you be born twice? How can you change who you are?
Jesus isn’t talking about being born again in the physical sense. As a mother, I say thank goodness! But the act of spiritual rebirth is no less monumental or significant. To better understand this mystery, we need to look further in John 3. In John 3:31 Jesus explains that, “The one who comes from above is above all. The one who is of the earth is earthly and speaks of earthly things. But the one who comes from heaven [is above all].” Jesus is the one who comes from above. He was trying to explain to Nicodemus that in order to see the Kingdom of God, a person needs to be reborn, remade, in Jesus. It is how St. Paul can boldly proclaim: “I have been crucified with Christ; yet I live, no longer I, but Christ lives in me” (Galatians 2:19b-20a). Jesus wishes to be alive once again in and through each one of us as we fulfill our unique mission God has prepared for us.
As we read this passage today, we should see that there is no part of us outside the scope of Jesus’ redemption, love and mercy. Regardless of whether our temper comes from our dad’s family or was learned at school or a tendency towards selfishness can be seen in Great-Aunt Mildred or was honed by a spiteful sibling, all the parts of us are able to be transformed.
A medida que la ciencia sigue estudiando a la persona humana, ha habido un debate continuo sobre “¿naturaleza o crianza?”. Lo que está “cocinado”, por así decirlo, en nuestros genes, y lo que nuestro entorno enseña o adquiere. ¿Con qué parte de nuestra personalidad estamos atrapados y qué se puede cambiar o transformar?
La conversación de Jesús con Nicodemo toca este tema. Jesús dice que una persona debe nacer de lo alto. La palabra que Jesús elige usar para describir este renacimiento puede significar tanto “desde arriba” como “de nuevo”. Nicodemo se pregunta, ¿cómo puede un hombre volver a entrar en el vientre de su madre y nacer de nuevo? ¿Cómo puede cambiar el hecho fundamental de quién soy, de quién nací? ¿Cómo puedes nacer dos veces? ¿Cómo puedes cambiar quién eres?
Jesús no está hablando de nacer de nuevo en el sentido físico. Como madre, digo ¡gracias a Dios! Pero el acto del renacimiento espiritual no es menos monumental o significativo. Para entender mejor este misterio, tenemos que mirar más allá en Juan 3. En Juan 3:31 Jesús explica que, “El que viene de arriba, está sobre todos. El que es de la tierra es terrenal y habla de cosas terrenales. Pero el que viene del cielo [está sobre todos]”. Jesús es el que viene de lo alto. Estaba tratando de explicarle a Nicodemo que para ver el Reino de Dios, una persona tiene que renacer, rehacerse, en Jesús. Así es como San Pablo puede proclamar audazmente: “He sido crucificado con Cristo; pero ya no vivo yo, sino que Cristo vive en mí” (Gálatas 2:19b-20a). Jesús desea estar vivo una vez más en y a través de cada uno de nosotros mientras cumplimos nuestra misión única que Dios ha preparado para nosotros.
Mientras leemos este pasaje hoy, debemos ver que no hay parte de nosotros fuera del alcance de la redención, el amor y la misericordia de Jesús. Independientemente de si nuestro temperamento proviene de la familia de nuestro papá o lo aprendimos en la escuela o si se puede ver una tendencia al egoísmo en la tía abuela Mildred o si fue perfeccionado por un hermano rencoroso, todas las partes de nosotros pueden transformarse.
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