At 40 years old, I am still struggling with finding my identity. Many times being around my young children it is difficult, probably with delayed gratification more days than others. Sometimes it has even been to the degree that I have declared on multiple occasions in exasperation to my dear daughter and sons, “I am not your slave!”
To this day society still tends to devalue and undermine the importance of mothering as a vocation. If you have more than two children, people often make remarks such as, “Is this your last?” Children take away from the family’s income and, for many, affect their standard of living. Having to humble yourself to changing diapers, cleaning spit-up, doing household chores, or being there for older childrens’ activities is not deemed as very “worthy” by the typical American adult. Yet in today’s reading, Jesus reminds us of the critical importance of putting those most in need ahead of our own prideful ways.
It is not necessarily second nature to tell yourself, don’t strive to be great! But how does one define “great”? Jesus paradoxically teaches us that the last will be first. By worldly standards, these are those with the least amount of power: perhaps the youngest, or oldest, or the physically or mentally disabled.
Ultimately, this teaching reminds me of the many saints who have managed to prioritize God’s hierarchy rather than that of our current earthly world. As St. Therese of Lisieux, the Little Flower, profoundly noted, “My heaven is to always remain in God’s presence, to call Him my Father and to be His child.” We must become small to become great, and care for God’s precious ones, rather than what are considered the riches of this world.
A los 40 años, todavía batallo para encontrar mi identidad. Muchas veces es difícil estar cerca de mis hijos pequeños, probablemente porque la gratificación no es instantánea la mayoría del tiempo. Hasta ha llegado al punto de que he declarado exasperadamente en múltiples ocasiones a mis queridos hijos: “¡No soy su esclava!”
Hasta el día de hoy, la sociedad todavía tiende a devaluar y desvirtuar la importancia de la maternidad como vocación. Si tienes más de dos hijos, la gente suele hacer comentarios como: “¿Este va a ser el último?” Los hijos restan dinero a la familia y, para muchos, afectan su nivel de vida. Tener que humillarse para cambiar pañales, limpiar los vómitos, hacer las tareas del hogar o estar presente en las actividades de los niños mayores no es considerado muy “digno” por el adulto estadounidense típico. Sin embargo, en la lectura de hoy, Jesús nos recuerda la importancia crítica de poner a los más necesitados por delante de nuestras propias formas orgullosas.
No es necesariamente algo natural decirse a uno mismo: ¡no te esfuerces por ser el mejor! Pero ¿cómo se define “mejor”? Jesús nos enseña paradójicamente que los últimos serán los primeros. Según los estándares mundanos, estos son los que tienen menos poder: tal vez los más jóvenes, o los ancianos, o los discapacitados física o mentalmente.
En última instancia, esta enseñanza me recuerda a los muchos santos que han logrado priorizar la jerarquía de Dios en lugar de la de nuestro mundo terrenal actual. Como señaló profundamente Santa Teresita de Lisieux: “Mi cielo es permanecer siempre en la presencia de Dios, llamarlo mi Padre y ser su hija”. Debemos volvernos pequeños para volvernos grandes y cuidar de los seres queridos de Dios, en lugar de lo que se consideran las riquezas de este mundo.
Dr. Alexis Dallara-Marsh is a board-certified neurologist who practices in Bergen County, NJ. She is a wife to her best friend, Akeem, and a mother of four little ones on Earth and two others in heaven above.
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