** This reflection was reposted from Diocean Archives.**
I had a lot of crazy things to bemoan during my teenage years. Most were embarrassing or even downright stupid, such as: smoking, swearing, skipping school, driving too fast, bullying the poor boy that sat in front of me in math class. The world meant everything; I wanted my peers to embrace me as I worked toward acquiring the latest and greatest material things. It feels as if my entire teenage years were spent trying to fit into some specific group or place.
While perhaps these activities are typical at that age, they were still dangerous, absolutely awful, and in the end, downright sinful. Yet, I didn’t care; I suffered from an earthly, misguided tunnel-vision. I worried only about what I could see, without a thought beyond this realm or of the eternal consequences of my behavior. Leaving it all behind to follow Jesus never entered my mind; that life seemed dull and hollow—if it was even real.
In my teens, I longed for what was below. I cared what other people thought of me. I sought acceptance and approval from my peers, whatever the cost. It was an incredibly egocentric period, yet ironically a time filled with uncertainty and insecurity.
My dreams included marrying someone rich but also being rich and famous myself. I read Cosmo and Tiger Beat magazines and strived to look as model-like as possible and judged and scorned those who did not. At parties, I sought the most popular people to impress and joined the ridicule of those not in that group. My validation of worth came from the world’s view, and being someone of significance in the eyes of family and friends, even strangers, enveloped my whole being.
I wish I could look back at my life and say these thoughts and behaviors remained a part of my immature teenage self, but alas, that is not so. Gossip, judging others, making poor choices to belong to a particular crowd would follow me throughout most of my life until I discovered the Truth. Joy came when I was finally willing to be last and strive toward heavenly rewards.
Through Tradition and Scripture, I learned that there is more, much more, beyond this earthly dwelling place, and finally allowed what is above to matter more than this world. This renewing of my mind was not easy and came with many tears, regrets, and painful confessions. Yet, it was not impossible, and the freedom and hope I now feel striving not to belong to the world are by far more amazing than anything I attempted to attain here below.
As you think about your current state of life, can you say you are more concerned with the things of Heaven? Are you rooted in the things of earth? Could you leave them behind to follow Jesus?
** Esta reflexión fue publicada nuevamente desde los Archivos de Diocesan.**
Lamentaba muchas locuras durante mi adolescencia. La mayoría eran vergonzosos o incluso francamente estúpidos, como fumar, decir malas palabras, faltar a la escuela, conducir demasiado rápido, intimidar al pobre niño que se sentaba en frente mío en la clase de matemáticas. El mundo lo significaba todo; Quería que mis compañeros me aceptaban mientras trabajaba para adquirir las últimas y mejores cosas materiales. Es como si pasara toda mi adolescencia tratando de encajar en algún grupo o lugar específico.
Si bien estas actividades tal vez sean típicas de esa edad, seguían siendo peligrosas, absolutamente horribles y, al final, francamente pecaminosas. Sin embargo, no me importaba; Sufría de una perspectiva puramente terrenal y equivocada. Me preocupaba sólo por lo que podía ver, sin pensar más allá de este ámbito o de las consecuencias eternas de mi comportamiento. Nunca se me pasó por la cabeza dejarlo todo atrás para seguir a Jesús; esa vida parecía aburrida y vacía, si es que fuera real.
Durante mi adolescencia, añoraba lo que había debajo. Me importaba lo que otras personas pensaran de mí. Busqué la aceptación y aprobación de mis compañeros, cueste lo que cueste. Fue un período increíblemente egocéntrico, pero, irónicamente, una época llena de incertidumbre e inseguridad.
Mis sueños incluían casarme con alguien rico pero también ser rica y famosa yo. Leía las revistas Cosmo y Tiger Beat y me esforzaba por parecer lo más posible como un modelo y juzgaba y despreciaba a quienes no lo hacían. En las fiestas buscaba a las personas más populares para impresionar y me unía al ridículo de aquellos que no estaban en ese grupo. La validación de mi valor provenía de la visión del mundo, y ser alguien importante a los ojos de familiares y amigos, incluso extraños, consumía todo mi ser.
Desearía poder mirar hacia atrás en mi vida y decir que estos pensamientos y comportamientos se quedaron atrás en mis años de adolescente inmaduro, pero, por desgracia, no es así. Los chismes, juzgar a los demás y tomar malas decisiones para pertenecer a un grupo en particular me perseguirían durante la mayor parte de mi vida hasta que descubrí la Verdad. La alegría llegó cuando finalmente estuve dispuesto a ser el último y luchar por las recompensas celestiales.
A través de la Tradición y las Escrituras, aprendí que hay más, mucho más, más allá de esta morada terrenal, y finalmente permití que lo de arriba me importar más que este mundo. Esta renovación de mi mente no fue fácil y vino acompañada de muchas lágrimas, arrepentimientos y confesiones dolorosas. Sin embargo, no era imposible, y la libertad y la esperanza que siento ahora al esforzarme por no pertenecer al mundo son mucho más asombrosas que cualquier cosa que intenté lograr aquí abajo.
Al pensar en tu estado de vida actual, ¿puedes decir que estás más preocupado por las cosas del Cielo? ¿Estás arraigado en las cosas de la tierra? ¿Podrías dejarlos atrás para seguir a Jesús?
Allison Gingras ( www.ReconciledToYou.com ) — Shares her love of the Catholic Faith with stories, laughter, and honesty as experienced in the ordinary of life! Her writing includes Encountering Signs of Faith (Ave Maria Press) and the Stay Connected Journals for Women (OSV). Allison is a Catholic Digital Media Specialist for Family Rosary, Catholic Mom, and the Fall River Diocese. She hosts A Seeking Heart podcast and is co-host of the Catholic Momcast podcast.Feature Image Credit: Alexander Ramsey, unsplash.com/photos/woman-walking-along-pathway-during-daytime-f8nHGR0kOqA
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