My son recently got a personalized license plate that says “IM THRD” or I’m third. I’m proud of him for having this mindset and happy for the reminder when he comes over. It’s so easy to wear self-serving blinders, especially when so many around us do the same. In today’s Gospel we are told that Jesus came to serve and we are expected to do the same.
I don’t think that only means serving at a food kitchen or homeless shelter. I think serving is much bigger than the once a year or even once a month Saturday morning at a food pantry. Too often, we are told that is how we should serve others and the daily opportunities for service are overlooked. I disagree with this attitude. It took me a long time to accept that God has not called me to go to a nursing home and read to older adults or serve at my local food pantry (which is an awesome organization.) For many years, I felt guilty that I didn’t want to do it. I wondered what was wrong with me and why my heart was hard.
Turns out there are a lot of other ways to serve in my life every day, ways to put myself third after God and others. It just takes keeping my eyes open for things I can do to make someone else’s day a little easier. Maybe I unload the dishwasher so my husband doesn’t have to. Maybe I clean that spoon someone left out in the kitchen at work. Maybe I prioritize someone else’s problem over mine.
Once I started looking, I discovered lots of ways to be the server instead of the served. I suspect if you ask Jesus for assistance, He will show you ways too.
Hace poco, mi hijo consiguió una placa personalizada para su carro que dice “IM THRD” (soy el tercero). Estoy orgullosa de él por tener esta mentalidad y feliz por el recordatorio cuando viene a visitarme. Es muy fácil cegarnos por el egoísmo, especialmente cuando muchos a nuestro alrededor hacen lo mismo. El Evangelio de hoy dice que Jesús vino a servir y se espera que nosotros hagamos lo mismo.
No creo que eso solo significa servir en un comedor comunitario o un refugio para personas sin hogar. Creo que servir es mucho más que una vez al año o incluso una vez al mes los sábados por la mañana en un comedor comunitario. Con demasiada frecuencia, nos dicen que así es como debemos servir a los demás y se pasan por alto las oportunidades diarias de servicio. No estoy de acuerdo con esta actitud. Me llevó mucho tiempo aceptar que Dios no me había llamado a ir a un asilo de ancianos y leerles a los mayores o servir en el comedor comunitario local (que es una organización increíble). Durante muchos años, me sentí culpable por no querer hacerlo. Me preguntaba qué me pasaba y por qué mi corazón estaba duro.
Resulta que hay muchas otras maneras de servir en mi vida todos los días, maneras de ponerme a mí misma en tercer lugar, después de Dios y los demás. Solo se trata de mantener los ojos abiertos para ver qué puedo hacer para que el día de otra persona sea un poco más fácil. Tal vez vacíe el lavaplatos para que mi esposo no tenga que hacerlo. Tal vez limpie esa cuchara que alguien dejó en la mesa en la cocina del trabajo. Tal vez priorice el problema de otra persona sobre el mío.
Una vez que comencé a buscar, descubrí muchas formas de ser la que sirve en lugar de la que es servida. Si le pides ayuda a Jesús, Él también te mostrará la forma.
Merridith Frediani loves words and is delighted by good sentences. She also loves Lake Michigan, dahlias, the first sip of hot coffee in the morning, millennials, and playing Sheepshead with her husband and three kids. She writes for Catholic Mom, Diocesan.com, and her local Catholic Herald. Her first book Draw Close to Jesus: A Woman’s Guide to Adoration is available at Our Sunday Visitor and Amazon. You can learn more at merridithfrediani.com.
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