Being a parent carries with it enormous anxiety, constantly placing your heart on the line for potential loss or rejection. What would happen if we were to lose our child’s life, or even worse, their soul? Such questions are so heavy that we probably don’t even want to begin to ponder them.
This isn’t a feel good post unfortunately, but the themes could not be more important. I recently heard a talk on Hallow given by Fyodor Dostoevsky. He stated, “What is hell? I maintain that it is the suffering of being unable to love.”
And yet ironically, the pain of Jesus on the cross, with His mother standing there watching Him, reflects the greatest love of all time. The most extreme suffering to have ever occurred on Earth was one and the same as what the choirs of Angels rejoiced over in Heaven, knowing that Christ’s love is enough to conquer death and the fires of Hell.
Mary, please help me be a more patient and approachable mother. Help me to place my children’s eternal life above all else. I pray that I will always remember your family’s sacrifice out of the greatest love to ever exist.
Ser madre o padre de familia conlleva una enorme ansiedad, arriesgando constantemente el corazón ante una posible pérdida o rechazo. ¿Qué pasaría si perdiéramos la vida de nuestro hijo, o peor aún, su alma? Estas preguntas son tan pesadas que probablemente ni siquiera queramos empezar a reflexionar sobre ellas.
Desafortunadamente, esta reflexión seguramente no nos hará sentirnos contentos, pero los temas son importantes. Hace poco escuché una charla en el app Hallow de Fyodor Dostoevsky. Declaró: “¿Qué es el infierno? Sostengo que es el sufrimiento de no poder amar”.
Y, sin embargo, irónicamente, el dolor de Jesús en la cruz, con su madre allí mirándolo, refleja el amor más grande de todos los tiempos. El sufrimiento más extremo jamás ocurrido en la Tierra fue el mismo por el que se regocijaron los coros de ángeles en el Cielo, sabiendo que el amor de Cristo es suficiente para vencer la muerte y el fuego del Infierno.
María, por favor, ayúdame a ser una madre más paciente y accesible. Ayúdame a poner la vida eterna de mis hijos por encima de todo. Ruego que siempre recuerde el sacrificio de tu familia, fruto del amor más grande que jamás haya existido.
Dr. Alexis Dallara-Marsh is a board-certified neurologist who practices in Bergen County, NJ. She is a wife to her best friend, Akeem, and a mother of four little ones on Earth and two others in heaven above.
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