What does it mean to have a culture of life today? I am an archdiocesan attorney in Washington, DC, and I’m often involved in policy and advocacy work related to pro-life issues. One critique that I hear frequently related to the Catholic Church’s teaching on life goes like this: “There is a difference between being pro-baby and pro-mother.” In other words, a Church that professes the sanctity of life from conception to natural death, must promote love for one another at each stage of life, especially for mothers who choose life.
Too often our culture responds to unexpected pregnancies with shaming and shunning. This is not a new concept. In the culture of her day, Mary’s pregnancy seemed scandalous. Even Saint Joseph struggled with how to respond to Mary’s pregnancy. We know from Matthew’s Gospel that since Joseph “was a righteous man,” he was “unwilling to expose her to shame, [and] decided to divorce her quietly” (Mt 1:20). Thankfully the angel changed his mind.
In a culture of life, all life is a gift that brings joy! We hear this joy in the Visitation as Mary set out to visit Elizabeth “in haste.” There is excitement in Mary’s pace. Elizabeth reacts to Mary’s pregnancy with the famous words that we pray in the Hail Mary, “Most blessed are you among women and blessed is the fruit of your womb.” These are declarations of support and of welcome. Even John the Baptist in Elizabeth’s womb “leaped for joy.” What’s more, these women did not exchange mere fleeting greetings of support, but rather, Mary remained with Elizabeth for three months. These women lived alongside each other and cared for each other.
When someone becomes pregnant unexpectedly, it is natural to experience a range of feelings. In Mary’s life, which was free from sin and full of grace, she experienced confusion and possibly apprehension, asking the angel “How can this be?” A woman may feel happiness, but also fear, or even anger at an unexpected pregnancy. She may ask herself, “What am I going to do?” or “How am I going to be a mom?” or “What will my family think?” These are the moments when a culture that upholds life walks alongside mothers and loves them.
At the beginning of her Magnificat, Mary gives us a great example of giving thanks to God for the gift of life:
My soul proclaims the greatness of the Lord;
my spirit rejoices in God my Savior,
for he has looked with favor on his lowly servant.
From this day all generations will call me blessed:
the Almighty has done great things for me,
and holy is his Name.
What might happen if we collectively prayed this first stanza of Mary’s Magnificat for every mother and her baby? It could break open our hearts to love each other better. How else do you see a culture of life evident in today’s Gospel reading?
¿Qué significa hoy tener una cultura de vida? Soy abogada arquidiocesana en Washington, DC, y a menudo participo en políticas y trabajo de defensa relacionados con temas provida. Una crítica que escucho con frecuencia relacionada con la enseñanza provida de la Iglesia Católica es ésta: “Hay una diferencia entre ser pro-bebé y pro-madre”. En otras palabras, una Iglesia que profesa la santidad de la vida desde la concepción hasta la muerte natural, debe promover el amor mutuo en cada etapa de la vida, especialmente hacia las madres que eligen la vida.
Con demasiada frecuencia nuestra cultura responde a los embarazos inesperados con vergüenza y rechazo. Este no es un concepto nuevo. En la cultura de su época, el embarazo de María parecía escandaloso. Incluso San José batalló con la forma de responder al embarazo de María. Sabemos por el Evangelio de Mateo que como José “era un hombre justo”, no quería “exponerla a la vergüenza, [y] decidió divorciarse de ella en secreto” (Mt 1,20). Afortunadamente, el ángel lo hizo cambiar de opinión.
En una cultura provida, ¡toda vida es un regalo que trae alegría! Escuchamos esta alegría en la Visitación cuando María se dispuso a visitar a Isabel “presurosa”. Hay entusiasmo en la velocidad del paso de María. Isabel reacciona al embarazo de María con las famosas palabras que rezamos en el Ave María: “Bendita tú eres entre las mujeres y bendito el fruto de tu vientre”. Estas son declaraciones de apoyo y de bienvenida. Incluso Juan el Bautista en el vientre de Isabel “saltó de gozo”. Es más, estas mujeres no intercambiaron meros saludos rápidos de apoyo, sino que María permaneció con Isabel durante tres meses. Estas mujeres vivieron juntas y se cuidaron mutuamente.
Cuando alguien queda embarazada inesperadamente, es natural experimentar una variedad de sentimientos. En la vida de María, que estaba libre de pecado y llena de gracia, experimentó confusión y posiblemente aprensión, y le preguntó al ángel “¿Cómo puede ser esto?” Una mujer puede sentir felicidad, pero también miedo o incluso enojo ante un embarazo inesperado. Puede preguntarse: “¿Qué voy a hacer?” o “¿Cómo voy a ser mamá?” o “¿Qué pensará mi familia?” Estos son los momentos en los que una cultura que defiende la vida camina junto a las madres y las ama.
Al comienzo de su Magníficat, María nos da un gran ejemplo de dar gracias a Dios por el don de la vida:
Mi alma glorifica al Señor
y mi espíritu se llena de júbilo en Dios, mi salvador,
porque puso sus ojos en la humildad de su esclava.
Desde ahora me llamarán dichosa todas las generaciones,
porque ha hecho en mí grandes cosas el que todo lo puede.
Santo es su nombre.
¿Qué podría suceder si colectivamente rezáramos esta primera estrofa del Magníficat de María por cada madre y su bebé? Podría abrir nuestros corazones para amarnos mejor. ¿De qué otra forma ves evidencia una cultura provida en la lectura del Evangelio de hoy?
Elizabeth Tomlin is the author of Joyful Momentum: Building and Sustaining Vibrant Women’s Groups and contributing author to the Ave Prayer Book for Catholic Mothers. She is General Counsel for the Archdiocese for the Military Services, USA. Elizabeth is an Army wife and mother of three and currently lives in Oklahoma. You can find her at @elizabethannetomlin on social media and she blogs at JoyfulMomentum.org 
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