“Be perfect, therefore, as your Heavenly Father is perfect.”
When I read these words of Jesus, I’m always a little confused. I am, after all, human. How can I be perfect? “Lord, I am far from perfect, I am not sure what you are trying to tell me here,” I prayed.
Then the Lord took me to the verses that came right before it, in which the idea of loving others who don’t love you is developed. The Lord is ultimately commanding us to repay evil with good, to be different from the tax collectors and the pagans.
Then, a lightbulb went off in my head.
One idea I’ve been sitting with on a regular basis is the belief that I never really fit in. School, work, even searching for holy friends… I’ve always felt a bit out of place, like I don’t quite belong. I’ve had that feeling in every season of my life and every part I play as wife, mother, employee, and friend.
“I don’t know what it all means, Lord. Help me to see what this all means.” And then I heard a voice speak. “It’s okay to not fit in. Be different than what the world expects.”
Of course! How had I never thought about it that way before? As Christians, if we are living how we should, we will never quite fit in, even in groups where we find ourselves in the majority. We are called to be countercultural, to bring light to the darkest corners of the world, to be joyful in the face of adversity, to trust when the world says it’s time to give up.
I think I get it now, Lord. May I always remember to be true to you, and not to worry about who I fit in with. As long as I am doing as you ask, I will know that I am moving in the right direction. May I always travel the road you will for me. Amen.
“Sean, pues, perfectos como su Padre celestial es perfecto”.
Cuando leo estas palabras de Jesús, siempre me quedo un poco confundida. Después de todo, soy un ser humano. ¿Cómo puedo ser perfecta? “Señor, estoy lejos de ser perfecta, no estoy seguro de lo que estás tratando de decirme”, oré.
Luego el Señor me llevó a los versículos anteriores, en los que se desarrolla la idea de amar a otros que no te aman. En definitiva, el Señor nos manda a pagar el mal con el bien, a diferenciarnos de los publicanos y de los paganos.
Y se me prendió el foco.
Una idea con la que me he sentado regularmente es la creencia de que nunca encajo con los demás. En la escuela, el trabajo, incluso en la búsqueda de amigos santos… siempre me he sentido un poco fuera de lugar, como si no perteneciera del todo. He tenido ese sentimiento en cada etapa de mi vida y en cada papel que desempeño como esposa, madre, empleada y amiga.
“No sé lo que significa todo esto, Señor. Ayúdame a ver lo que significa todo esto”. Y entonces escuché una voz hablar. “Está bien no encajar. Sé diferente de lo que el mundo espera”.
¡Por supuesto! ¿Cómo nunca lo había pensado de esa forma? Como cristianos, si vivimos como debemos, nunca encajaremos del todo, ni siquiera en grupos donde formemos la mayoría. Estamos llamados a ser contraculturales, a llevar luz a los rincones más oscuros del mundo, a ser alegres ante la adversidad, a confiar cuando el mundo dice que es hora de rendirse.
Creo que ya entiendo, Señor. Que siempre recuerde ser fiel a ti y no preocuparme por encajar con los demás. Mientras haga lo que me pides, sabré que estoy avanzando en la dirección correcta. Que siempre recorra el camino de tu voluntad por mí. Amén.
Mary Thissen is a St. Louis native living in East Central Illinois with her husband and children. She is blessed with twin boys Earthside and four children now living in Heaven. When she is not working as a healthcare data analyst or caring for her boys, she enjoys studying and writing about the Catholic faith and ministering to women who are suffering through miscarriage or infertility. You can connect with Mary on Instagram @waitingonmiracles.
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