My husband and I recently celebrated our 30th anniversary. It’s a chance to consider the importance of a sacramental marriage and its indissolubility. Marriage is commitment and a road of obedience to both the other and God.
Jesus has strong words on marriage in today’s Gospel, emphasizing that marriage is not to be taken lightly. This has been our experience as well – weathering the natural ebbs and flows of a lifelong relationship and commitment with another person. When I got engaged, my mother (who has been married to my father for 58 years) told me that there would be times when I could walk away and possibly feel no regrets but that’s not what marriage is. In other words, it can be darn stinking hard sometimes, but marriage is pushing through and coming out on the other side stronger.
I believe Jesus underlined the importance of marriage because he also knew how critical it is for children to be in a family. I understand that sometimes really crummy things happen and that’s not possible. Thankfully, the Church has ways of assisting. But I also know that a healthy marriage helps build healthy children. A sacramental marriage with God at its center helps grow faithful children. I’ve met a decent number of young adults who didn’t have this model who have shared that they value seeing my husband and I be a married couple and they appreciate that we share the good, the bad,and the goofy with them. It comforts them to know that a long term, happy, healthy marriage is possible.
As always, Jesus sets the bar high but doesn’t abandon us. I know for a fact that we have only been able to keep this thing going for 30 years because of humility and God’s good grace.
What do Jesus’ words on marriage mean to you in your particular situation?
Jesus, help me keep you at the center of my marriage and grant me the grace to be a good spouse.
Mi esposo y yo recientemente celebramos nuestro aniversario de 30 años de casados. Es una oportunidad para considerar la importancia del matrimonio sacramental y su indisolubilidad. El matrimonio es un compromiso y un camino de obediencia tanto al otro como a Dios.
Jesús tiene palabras fuertes sobre el matrimonio en el Evangelio de hoy, enfatizando que el matrimonio no debe tomarse a la ligera. Esta ha sido nuestra experiencia también: capear los flujos y reflujos naturales de una relación y un compromiso de por vida con otra persona. Cuando me comprometí, mi madre (que ha estado casada con mi padre por 58 años) me dijo que habría momentos en los que podría alejarme y posiblemente no sentir arrepentimiento, pero eso no es el matrimonio. En otras palabras, a veces puede ser muy difícil, pero el matrimonio se trata de salir adelante y salir al otro lado más fuerte.
Creo que Jesús subrayó la importancia del matrimonio porque también sabía lo importante que es que los niños estén dentro de una familia. Entiendo que a veces pasan cosas realmente malas y eso no es posible. Afortunadamente, la Iglesia tiene formas de ayudar. Pero también sé que un matrimonio sano ayuda a tener hijos sanos. Un matrimonio sacramental con Dios en el centro ayuda a que los hijos crezcan fieles. He conocido a un número decente de adultos jóvenes que no tenían este modelo y que han compartido que valoran ver a mi esposo y a mí ser una pareja casada y aprecian que compartamos lo bueno, lo malo y lo ridículo con ellos. Les reconforta saber que es posible un matrimonio feliz, saludable y duradero.
Como siempre, Jesús pone el listón alto pero no nos abandona. Sé con certeza que solo hemos podido mantener esta relación durante 30 años gracias a la humildad y la buena gracia de Dios.
¿Qué significan para ti en tu situación particular las palabras de Jesús sobre el matrimonio?
Jesús, ayúdame a mantenerte en el centro de mi matrimonio y concédeme la gracia de ser una buena cónyuge.
Merridith Frediani loves words and is delighted by good sentences. She also loves Lake Michigan, dahlias, the first sip of hot coffee in the morning, millennials, and playing Sheepshead with her husband and three kids. She writes for Catholic Mom, Diocesan.com, and her local Catholic Herald. Her first book Draw Close to Jesus: A Woman’s Guide to Adoration is available at Our Sunday Visitor and Amazon. You can learn more at merridithfrediani.com.
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