I admit it. This is a time of the year when I feel the pressures of the world way too much. Ever since they took down the back to school signs in the stores, the Christmas aisles have been filling up. The pressure to buy, prepare, and celebrate comes to a crescendo in the weeks before Christmas. So much so that the day after Christmas feels like a great big exhale as everyone returns undesired gifts and tries to recover from the holiday.
But our mother, the Church, in her infinite wisdom, sets aside the time before Christmas, not as a time to get a jumpstart on the parties, but to prepare our hearts for the idea that our God is not a remote chess player or puppetmaster in the sky, but a real person who loves us so much that He enters into our reality and becomes man in time and space. This is a pretty big deal. It is such a big deal, that all of humanity divides the recording of time as before Jesus and after Jesus.
Advent starts tomorrow, and during Advent, it is not about preparation vs. celebration, but rather that we are encouraged to set aside time to contemplate what all this means, how it helps us answer the big questions in our life, “Who I am?”, “What is my purpose?” We need time to think about how God did not enter into time and space as a conquering hero or wearing a gold crown, but as the most humble of creatures, a tiny babe. He enters as one who can neither feed himself or take care of the most basic of human needs. He enters into a small, poor family not one of power or wealth. He enters as one who will be taught by people of little education or earthly status.
So what can I do, to keep this time as the Church intends? Here are a few thoughts: 1) If you put up your tree right after Thanksgiving (like I do), consider putting purple lights and ribbon on it until Christmas Eve. 2) Celebrate the Feast Days of Advent, like St. Nicholas and St. Lucy and the Solemnity of the Immaculate Conception: As we prepare for the birth of Jesus, it helps to consider the woman who was chosen from birth to be his mother. 3) Use sacramentals: Use Advent candles and a good prayer guide for Advent. 4) Pray the The O Antiphons: They draw from the messianic hopes of the Old Testament to proclaim the coming Christ. Their repeated use of the imperative “Come!” embodies the longing of all for the Divine Messiah.
My prayers are with you as together, we walk this path of preparation for a more intentional celebration. Happy Advent!
Confieso que en esta época del año siento demasiado las presiones del mundo. Desde que quitaron los letreros de “Back to School” (regresar al colegio) en las tiendas, los pasillos navideños se han ido llenando. La presión de comprar, preparar y celebrar llega a su punto máximo en las semanas previas a la Navidad. Llega a tal punto que el día después de Navidad se siente como un profundo respiro cuando todos devuelven los regalos no deseados y tratan de recuperarse de las vacaciones.
Pero nuestra madre, la Iglesia, en su infinita sabiduría, reserva el tiempo previo a la Navidad, no como un tiempo para dar un empujón a las fiestas, sino para preparar nuestro corazón a la idea de que nuestro Dios no es un jugador de ajedrez o un titiritero allí arriba en el cielo, sino una persona real que nos ama tanto que entra en nuestra realidad y se hace hombre en el tiempo y en el espacio. Es abrumador. Es un asunto tan grande, que toda la humanidad divide el registro del tiempo como antes de Jesús y después de Jesús.
El Adviento comienza mañana, y durante el Adviento, no se trata de una pelea entre la preparación y la celebración, sino que se nos anima a reservar tiempo para contemplar lo que todo esto significa y cómo nos ayuda a responder las grandes preguntas de nuestra vida, “¿Quién soy?”, “¿Cuál es mi propósito?” Necesitamos tiempo para pensar cómo Dios no entró en el tiempo y el espacio como un héroe conquistador o con una corona de oro, sino como la más humilde de las criaturas, un pequeño bebé. Entra como alguien que no puede alimentarse por sí mismo ni cuidar de las necesidades humanas más básicas. Entra en una familia pequeña y pobre que no tiene poder ni riqueza. Entra como alguien que será enseñado por personas de poca educación o estatus.
Entonces, ¿qué puedo hacer para vivir esta temporada como la Iglesia tiene pensado? Les ofrezco algunas ideas: 1) Si coloca su árbol justo después del Día de Acción de Gracias (como lo hago yo), considere ponerle luces y cintas moradas hasta la víspera de Navidad. 2) Celebrar las Fiestas de Adviento, como San Nicolás y Santa Lucía y la Solemnidad de la Inmaculada Concepción. Mientras nos preparamos para el nacimiento de Jesús, ayuda considerar a la mujer que fue elegida desde su nacimiento para ser su madre. 3) Utiliza los sacramentales como velas de Adviento y una buena guía de oración para Adviento. 4) Rezar las Antífonas “O”. Se inspiran en las esperanzas mesiánicas del Antiguo Testamento para anunciar la venida de Cristo. Su uso repetido del imperativo “¡Ven!” encarna el anhelo de todos por el Mesías Divino.
Mis oraciones están con ustedes mientras juntos recorremos este camino de preparación para una celebración más intencional. ¡Feliz Adviento!
Sheryl is happy to be the number 1 cheerleader and supporter for her husband, Tom who is a candidate for the Permanent Diaconate in the Diocese of Kalamazoo. They are so grateful for the opportunity to grow together in this process. Sheryl’s day job is serving her community as the principal for St. Therese Catholic School in Wayland, Michigan. Since every time she thinks she gets life all figured out, she realizes just how far she has to go, St. Rita of Cascia is her go-to Saint for intercession and help. Home includes Carlyn, a very, very goofy Golden Retriever and Lucy, our not-so-little rescue puppy.
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