I remember several moments as a child when something would strike my mom as particularly funny and she would laugh and laugh until she cried. She would try to speak but couldn’t get a single sensible word out. Sometimes, when she was just getting started, one of my older brothers would say “Heeeere we go…” and roll his eyes. That would get her going even more! By that time, the whole family was giggling.
Now I am the one saying “here we go again” for a whole different reason. After being in the hospital on and off for two months with my son last year, we are headed there again soon. My husband has serious back issues and is scheduled for spinal surgery. While I am far from laughing hysterically like my mom did, my heart is filled with hope and joy knowing that he will soon get taken care of and hopefully be in much less pain.
I could look at it like life keeps throwing things at me left and right, one thing after another, or I could look at it like he was using my son’s hospitalization as a preparation for my husband’s. I can ask “Why? Why? Why?” or I can lean once again on God and His powerful strength.
I find the words of St. Paul in today’s First Reading to be of comfort: “I have learned, in whatever situation I find myself, to be self-sufficient. I know indeed how to live in humble circumstances; I know also how to live with abundance. In every circumstance and in all things I have learned the secret of being well fed and of going hungry, of living in abundance and of being in need. I have the strength for everything through him who empowers me.”
At first glance, St. Paul appears to be speaking pridefully. He claims to be self-sufficient, needing help from no one. But upon further reading, it is because of Christ Jesus that he can make this claim. “I have the strength for everything through him who empowers me.” This is a great lesson for all of us to learn, especially me, who likes everything organized and under control.
I have also learned that sometimes I do need help and that it’s okay to ask for it. Paul goes on to say: “Still, it was kind of you to share in my distress… you sent me something for my needs,
not only once but more than once… I am very well supplied because of what I received from you…” I am surrounded by family and friends who are willing to provide meals and child care if I but ask.
Through it all, one thing remains. God is good. All the time. May you find strength in Him and support from those around you during your times of need as well.
Recuerdo varios momentos cuando era niña cuando algo le parecía particularmente gracioso a mi mamá y ella se reía y se reía hasta que se le salieran las lágrimas. Intentaba hablar pero no podía pronunciar ni una sola palabra sensata. A veces, cuando recién estaba comenzando con la risa, uno de mis hermanos mayores decía “¿Ooootra vez…?” y ponía los ojos en blanco. ¡Eso la pondría hizo reír aún más! Y luego toda la familia se atacaba de la risa.
Ahora soy yo el que dice “¿otra vez?” por una razón completamente diferente. Después de estar en el hospital de forma intermitente durante dos meses con mi hijo el año pasado, pronto nos dirigiremos allí nuevamente. Mi esposo tiene serios problemas de espalda y está programado para una cirugía de columna. Si bien estoy lejos de reírme histéricamente como lo hizo mi mamé, mi corazón está lleno de esperanza y alegría al saber que pronto lo cuidarán y, con suerte, tendrá mucho menos dolor.
Podría verlo como si la vida me arrojara cosas a diestro y siniestro, una cosa tras otra, o podría verlo como si estuviera usando la hospitalización de mi hijo como preparación para la de mi esposo. Puedo preguntar “¿Por qué? ¿Por qué? ¿Por qué?” o puedo apoyarme una vez más en Dios y en Su fuerza infinita.
Encuentro las palabras de San Pablo en la Primera Lectura de hoy como un consuelo: “He aprendido a conformarme con lo que tengo. Sé lo que es vivir en pobreza y también lo que es tener de sobra. Estoy acostumbrado a todo: lo mismo a comer bien que a pasar hambre; lo mismo a la abundancia que a la escasez. Todo lo puedo unido a aquel que me da fuerza”.
A primera vista, San Pablo parece estar hablando con orgullo. Afirma ser autosuficiente y no necesitar ayuda de nadie. Pero después de leer más, es por Cristo Jesús que puede hacer esta afirmación. “Todo lo puedo unido a aquel que me da fuerza”. Esta es una gran lección para todos nosotros, especialmente para mí, que me gusta todo organizado y bajo control.
También he aprendido que a veces necesito ayuda y que no demuestra debilidad pedirla. Pablo continúa diciendo: “Sin embargo, han hecho ustedes bien en socorrerme cuando me vi en dificultades… en más de una ocasión me enviaron ayuda para aliviar mis necesidades… Tengo cuanto necesito y más de lo que necesito…” Estoy rodeado de familiares y amigos que están dispuestos a proporcionar comidas y cuidado de niños si tan solo se los pido.
A pesar de todo, una cosa permanece. Dios es bueno. Todo el tiempo. Que encuentres fuerza en Él y el apoyo de quienes te rodean también durante tus momentos difíciles.
Tami Urcia grew up in Western Michigan, a middle child in a large Catholic family. She spent early young adulthood as a missionary in Mexico, studying theology and philosophy, then worked and traveled extensively before finishing her Bachelor’s Degree in Western Kentucky. She loves tackling projects, finding fun ways to keep her little ones occupied, quiet conversation with the hubby and finding unique ways to love. She works at for Christian Healthcare Centers, is a guest blogger on CatholicMom.com and BlessedIsShe.net, runs her own blog at https://togetherandalways.wordpress.com and has been doing Spanish translations on the side for over 20 years.
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Sheryl is happy to be the number 1 cheerleader and supporter for her husband, Tom who is a candidate for the Permanent Diaconate in the Diocese of Kalamazoo. They are so grateful for the opportunity to grow together in this process. Sheryl’s day job is serving her community as the principal for St. Therese Catholic School in Wayland, Michigan. Since every time she thinks she gets life all figured out, she realizes just how far she has to go, St. Rita of Cascia is her go-to Saint for intercession and help. Home includes Carlyn, a very, very goofy Golden Retriever and Lucy, our not-so-little rescue puppy.

David Dashiell is a freelance author and editor in Nashville, Tennessee. He has a master’s degree in theology from Franciscan University, and is the editor of the anthology
Susan Ciancio has a BA in psychology and a BA in sociology from the University of Notre Dame, with an MA in liberal studies from Indiana University. For the past 19 years, she has worked as a professional editor and writer, editing both fiction and nonfiction books, magazine articles, blogs, educational lessons, professional materials and website content. Thirteen of those years have been in the pro-life sector. Currently Susan freelances and writes weekly for HLI, edits for American Life League, and is the executive editor of Celebrate Life Magazine. She also serves as executive editor for the Culture of Life Studies Program—an educational nonprofit program for K-12 students. You can reach her at
Mike Karpus is a regular guy. He grew up in Michigan’s Upper Peninsula, graduated from Michigan State University and works as an editor. He is married to a Catholic school principal, raised two daughters who became Catholic school teachers at points in their careers, and now relishes his two grandchildren, including the older one who is fascinated with learning about his faith. He also has served on a Catholic school board, a pastoral council and a parish stewardship committee. He currently is a lector at Mass, a Knight of Columbus, Adult Faith Formation Committee member and a board member of the local Habitat for Humanity organization. But mostly he’s a regular guy.
Leslie Sholly is a Catholic, Southern wife and mother of five, living in her hometown, Knoxville, Tennessee. She graduated from Georgetown University with an English major and Theology minor. She blogs at
Kate Taliaferro is an Air Force wife and mother. She is blessed to be able to homeschool, bake bread and fold endless piles of laundry. When not planning a school day, writing a blog post or cooking pasta, Kate can be found curled up with a book or working with some kind of fiber craft. Kate blogs at
Deacon Dan Schneider is a retired general manager of industrial distributors. He and his wife Vicki have been married for over 50 years. They are the parents of eight children and thirty grandchildren. He has a degree in Family Life Education from Spring Arbor University. He was ordained a Permanent Deacon in 2002. He has a passion for working with engaged and married couples and his main ministry has been preparing couples for marriage.
J.M. Pallas has had a lifelong love of Scriptures. When she is not busy with her vocation as a wife and mother to her “1 Samuel 1” son, or her vocation as a public health educator, you may find her at her parish women’s bible study, affectionately known as “The Bible Chicks.”
