In the Gospel today, we hear Jesus tell His followers that “whoever loses his life for My sake will find it.” What does He mean by that? Of course, we know that anyone who becomes a martyr for the faith will immediately attain heaven, but thankfully we are not all called to be martyrs.
What Jesus means is that, if we want to live for eternity with Him, we must live our lives here on earth directed toward Him. Christ must come first in our lives. He must come before work, before money, before leisure, before friends, and yes even before family.
But putting God before family does not denigrate them or make them second rate. Putting God first in our lives allows us to be a better mother, father, sibling, grandparent, or friend. It shows the people in our lives that we love God and will do everything we can to spend eternity with Him. Oftentimes, when we do that, we help bring others closer to Him.
Remember the Sermon on the Mount when Jesus said, “Your light must shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your heavenly Father”? That is what we are doing when we allow God to be first and foremost in our minds and in our hearts. We shine that light so that others can see the glory of God and so that they, too, can know Him.
That is what we are tasked with doing, especially for our children. Our world is full of people who mock faith, who prefer to do what they want when they want, and who will roll their eyes when we mention the name Jesus. So, when He tells us that we must lose our lives, He does not mean our actual lives. Though yes, He means that too. But He also means the material wealth, the earthly life that we live every day.
By losing this life — or dying to the ways and secular beliefs of our material world — we gain everything. We gain eternity.
En el Evangelio de hoy, escuchamos a Jesús decirles a sus seguidores que “el que pierda su vida por causa de mí, la encontrará”. ¿Qué quiere decir eso? Por supuesto, sabemos que cualquiera que se convierta en mártir de la fe alcanzará inmediatamente el cielo, pero afortunadamente no todos estamos llamados a ser mártires.
Lo que Jesús quiere decir es que, si queremos vivir por toda la eternidad con Él, debemos vivir nuestras vidas aquí en la tierra dirigidas hacia Él. Cristo debe ser lo primero en nuestras vidas. Debe venir antes del trabajo, el dinero, el ocio, los amigos, y sí, antes de la familia.
Pero poner a Dios antes de la familia no los echa de menos ni los pone en una segunda categoría. Poner a Dios primero en nuestras vidas nos permite ser mejores madres, padres, hermanos, abuelos o amigos. Muestra a las personas en nuestras vidas que amamos a Dios y que haremos todo lo posible para pasar la eternidad con Él. A menudo, cuando hacemos eso, ayudamos a otros a acercarse a Él.
¿Te acuerdas del Sermón del Monte cuando Jesús dijo: “Tu luz debe brillar delante de los demás, para que puedan ver tus buenas obras y glorificar a tu Padre celestial”? Eso es lo que estamos haciendo cuando permitimos que Dios sea lo primero y principal en nuestra mente y en nuestro corazón. Hacemos brillar esa luz para que otros puedan ver la gloria de Dios y para que ellos también puedan conocerlo.
Esa es nuestra tarea por hacer, especialmente para nuestros hijos. Nuestro mundo está lleno de personas que se burlan de la fe, que prefieren hacer lo que quieren cuando quieren y que ponen los ojos en blanco cuando mencionamos el nombre de Jesús. Entonces, cuando Él nos dice que debemos perder nuestras vidas, no se refiere a nuestras vidas reales. Aunque sí, también quiere decir eso. Pero también se refiere a la riqueza material, a la vida terrenal que vivimos todos los días.
Al perder esta vida, o morir a las formas y creencias seculares de nuestro mundo material, ganamos todo. Ganamos la eternidad.
Susan Ciancio has a BA in psychology and a BA in sociology from the University of Notre Dame, with an MA in liberal studies from Indiana University. For the past 19 years, she has worked as a professional editor and writer, editing both fiction and nonfiction books, magazine articles, blogs, educational lessons, professional materials and website content. Thirteen of those years have been in the pro-life sector. Currently Susan freelances and writes weekly for HLI, edits for American Life League, and is the executive editor of Celebrate Life Magazine. She also serves as executive editor for the Culture of Life Studies Program—an educational nonprofit program for K-12 students. You can reach her at slochner0.wixsite.com/website.
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Kathryn Mulderink, MA, is married to Robert, Station Manager for Holy Family Radio. Together they have seven children (including Father Rob), and seven grandchildren. She is President of the local community of Secular Discalced Carmelites and has published five books and many articles. Over the last 30 years, she has worked as a teacher, headmistress, catechist, Pastoral Associate, and DRE, and as a writer and voice talent for Catholic Radio. Currently, she serves the Church by writing and speaking, and by collaborating with various parishes and to lead others to encounter Christ and engage their faith. Her website is
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Sr. Mary Martha Moss, FSP has had the grace of serving the Lord for over 40 years as a Daughter of St. Paul. Joyfully engaged in the community’s media ministry, she has authored 3 children’s books, presented on various topics for adult faith formation, enjoyed running Online Book Studies, served as a Pauline Book & Media Center manager and continues singing the alto part with the Daughters of St. Paul Concert Choir.
Elizabeth Tomlin is the author of Joyful Momentum: Building and Sustaining Vibrant Women’s Groups and contributing author to the Ave Prayer Book for Catholic Mothers. She is General Counsel for the Archdiocese for the Military Services, USA. Elizabeth is an Army wife and mother of three and currently lives in the DC area. She blogs at
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